Working together

For fans of American Collegiate sports, the name Jim Valvano may be familiar to you. Jim was a highly talented College Basketball coach – a true leader of men and an incredibly charismatic human being. His list of achievements as a basketball coach is impressive, including leading NC State University to the 1983 NCAA National Basketball title. While Jim's coaching exploits were elite, it was his off-court characteristics and actions that earned his greater plaudits.

Jim, who lost his battle with cancer at the age of 47, spent the last few years of his life speaking to audiences about focusing on the important things in life. He frequently spoke about his relationship with his father, who inspired him in all facets of life. One of Jim's famous quotes is:

"My father gave me the greatest gift anyone could give another person; he believed in me."

Attending our Father's Day breakfast on Friday, I was reminded of Jim and this quote. There was a tangible feeling of love and care in the Cloisters as I witnessed the beautiful relationships between our boys and their fathers, grandfathers, step-fathers and other family relations. It was quite evident that for many of our boys, their preeminent role model was standing before them, and I was privileged to eavesdrop on many moving conversations, terrible dad jokes and wonderful words of wisdom being passed on from generation to generation.

The morning showed exactly what we are all about at CBC. We understand that our role is to complement the efforts our families put into the formation of their sons. Collectively we need to inspire our boys to dream big, prepare for challenges, face adversity, be resilient and above all, believe that anything is possible. As a College we know none of this is possible without the unconditional love and support our boys receive from their families.

Jim Valvano made a famous final speech at the ESPY awards less than two months before his passing in 1993. In this speech, Jim gave some poignant advice to people about how to live life. His comments parallel the message we strive to provide for our boys – to debunk society's male stereotype, and to embrace and connect with their emotions:

"To me, there are three things we all should do every day. We should do this every day of our lives. Number one is laugh. You should laugh every day. Number two is think. You should spend some time in thought. And number three is, you should have your emotions moved to tears, could be happiness or joy. But think about it. If you laugh, you think, and you cry, that's a full day. That's a heck of a day. You do that seven days a week, you're going to have something special."

I am happy to report that based on my observations in the Cloisters during our Fathers' Day breakfast, our CBC families are living pretty full days!

Mr Neil Alweyn

Vice Principal